Joanne's Story of Survival........


From about the age of 10-15 I was abused by my aunt's husband, no intercourse was used but just alot of touching and kissing. He would get his penis out and make me touch it and masturbate him, while he touched me in private parts and played with my breasts. He has also done this to another aunt, and at one point tried to rape her. My aunt was never told, I suspose to protect her from the reality of who she has married to.

It started with me about 10 years later. He always told me that if I told anyone I would never be able to see my aunt again or my cousins, so I kept it to myself.

My Aunt moved away and I very often went to see her, one night when I was 13 she told me what had happened to her, and asked if he had ever done anything to me, instantly I replied no, silly really I know, but I was scared.

At the age of 15 I avoided him like the plague, I had done this anyway but he would always manage to get to me. Then as quick as it started it stopped.

When I was 18 I met my fiance I then knew that going into a sexual relationship I had to sort things out in my head. So one day I just blurted it out to my mother, she was flabbergasted and shocked by what I just told her.

I then had to ring my aunt and tell her, when I had finished she was really upset that i hadn't told her earlier, she told her husband who then confronted him and told him that everyone in the family knew about what he had done to both my aunt and myself. He is dead now God rest his soul I will never forget what he did for me going to him like that, and i miss him terribly.

I have got on with my life now and I don't dwell on the past. I will not let this beat me.

I am 23 now and have a 15 year old sister, I have told her about this and what he has done, for her own protection. I think that I would proberly kill him if he touched a hair on her head. My aunt also has two girls now aged 14 and 12 they to know about him as she is not prepared to let happen to then what happened to us.

We rarely ever go to my aunts house just in case he is there, I have not seen him now for about 2 years, and when I did see him it was when he walked past me in town. He stopped and called to me but I just kept on walking.

Thanks for listening,

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